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Yesterday I met my long-time friends of Seriousgrafia. 

We still meet from time to time to print, create, ideate. Yesterday was one of these days. We had a load of t-shirts to do.

We don’t see very often, to be honest, and most of the time is because of work. So I’m not very up to date on our lives. I was surprised to see again an old friend, Z, who yesterday looked particularly calm and relaxed. 

He seemed happy of his life. He started to work, he is going to give his last exam, he has found a girl that he loves, he likes what he do everyday and he enjoy is current state. 

I compared this to my own course of life, and I don’t feel the same joy and fulfillment. 

I feel lost, I lost track of my goals and my motivation, I’m not sure where I’m heading to. I feel stressed and pressured to do something different than what I’m currently doing, and change track of my life. 

Suddenly I realized something. He is basically just enjoy the progress of his life. He’s not looking to particular goals to meet, to important objectives. He’s just enjoying his current moment. 

He focus on the progress instead of the results. 

 Everything looked more clear to me. 

I read a book, recently.. “What’s in the way is the way” and he says this:

When you look honestly at your search for a better experience, you will see that it doesn’t work. Or the better way to say it is that it does work, for brief moments, but it keeps you caught in the belief that if you just do it right - if you change yourself and your life enough - then you will know that illusive okayness that you long for. But have you ever noticed how every time your mind feels it has gotten yourself and your life together, they haven’t stayed that way? 

Your life has become a series of problems to be solved rather than an adventure to be lived. If you are honest with yourself, you recognize that this self-fixing game of your mind has never brought you peace, well-being, or ease.

The mind constantly look for something better, better, better. If you only get at this point I will finally find happiness. 

But you know what? 

Even if you reach your final goals you won’t find happiness anyway. Because your mind will be already looking for something else. 

So stop following your stupid monkey-mind, Lorenzo! :) 

The fact is that goals are not that important anyway. The important is also the progress, all the life you live in the meantime. 

Because experiences are the only thing that will remain to you. Not the useless objectives, your selfish ambitions. Everything will ultimately disappear if your life is wasted in this endless search. 

Just embrace life. Is an adventure!

Why are you keeping making that hard? Why not just taking the best you had? 

Why all that drama? 

I know, you like dramas. You are watching maybe too much and you got lost in a character that is not yourself anymore. 

Wake up already! and finally find yourself. 

I know.. it’s hard. It’s not easy in real life. But recognize this is already a progress. Today just step outside a little. Step by step you will find yourself. And smile! Smile more!